Offering classes
in Annapolis, Baltimore, Washington DC and
beyond.
Fernando Alessandri
PO Box 61 Davidsonville, MD 21035-0061
443-370-2606
fernando@relationalharmony.org
Feel free to ask for references from couples I've
helped!
For more than 15 years, Mr.
Alessandri has worked with couples,
parents and teens in an informal capacity via his
church and through programs he co-founded such as The Ahead
Leadership Program in Los Angeles.
Mr. Alessandri has also helped world-class organizations
such as Hewlett-Packard, Cedars-Sinai Medical Center,
Raytheon, Northrop Grumman and Disney to communicate better
and attract and retain the highest level talent from around
the world.
Today he has moved into more extensive work and research in
conflict resolution and communication education. The
principles he teaches were primarily developed by
relationship expert, Stanley Posthumus, JD MSW of
www.BeyondWinWin.com.
PHILOSOPHY
Mr.
Alessandri is a practicing Catholic who believes in the
Church's teachings on marriage. As such, he believes God
created the world for our benefit and that we might grow to
be happy. This happiness is not that of a well-fed animal
but that of a spiritual being in relationship with others –
capable of living in heaven among the best and most heroic
people who ever lived (saints), as well as with God
himself. Now, it would be "embarrassing" to show up there
without scars and proofs of self-giving love (a real or
figurative martyrdom), even though He (and certainly his
Mother) is willing to "sneak" most of us in despite what
seems like a rather average and unheroic life. Yet the
pinpricks of daily life and all the little choices we make
for or against Love are constantly forming our character
and making it easier or harder to do the beautiful thing
(which is heroic, more than just doing right and wrong).
Our
relationships – how we treat (and receive) God and others –
is at the heart of all this.
We
have no bigger fan than God himself, whose goal is to have
us blossom to our full potential. Yet he does it through
paradoxes (e.g., "unless the grain of wheat die it cannot
bear fruit"; "he who would save his life will lose it")
that defy run-of-the-mill logic in order to foster faith,
trust, obedience (self-surrender!) which produce a secure,
happy, self-forgetful environment such as toddlers enjoy
with loving parents. Too many of us take ourselves too
seriously and become bitter, nervous control freaks. While
God asks us to "let go" and "choose which hand" we refuse
to play because we assume He'd never really give us the
best things... a bit like Adam and Eve thinking He had held
back the best tree rather than a poison. Go figure.
Communication has been an issue from Day 6. "And God saw
all the things that he had made, and they were very good"
(Gen 1:31).
You do NOT
need to be a Catholic to benefit from what Mr. Alessandri
teaches about human interaction and
communication.
ARTICLES
& INTERVIEWS
• Q&A with Mr. Alessandri by Tonya
Mead, DC Marriage Advice Examiner
• Why Are Broken Relationships So
Exhausting? (it will download as a pdf)
• Stop Kissing Frogs and Improve Your
Chances of Living Happily Ever After
(pdf)
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