Knowledge is
Freedom.
It's
not about learning to compromise. You can both learn to
win!
It is our belief that the lack
of healthy, positive relationships is the #1 cause of
unhappiness, frustration and discontentment. You can
transform the quality of your relationships by learning to
identify and practice wiser habits of relating. A little
time here goes a very long way for the rest of your life!
Classes require a minimum of one couple. Fees are $25 per
person per hour. Ask about group rates, visits to your
city, and Skype (internet based video calls).
MODULE 1:
HUMAN CONNECTION (2 Hours)
What
is loneliness? Why is solitary confinement the worst
punishment in a humane prison system? Learn to establish or
recover the warm human connections lacking in your life.
This class
addresses these complaints:
• I
never feel heard or understood. Things I say get
misunderstood.
• I/they can’t control their emotions.
• We can’t make plans together, nor solve problems.
• I feel judged, condemned.
• They get so defensive.
• We’ve stopped fighting. We just don’t even try to talk
anymore.
• They have no idea what it’s like.
• I don’t feel respected.
• I’m not even sure what I’m doing wrong.
Skills
taught:
• How
to prevent misunderstandings.
• How to communicate without being rejected.
• How to express the things you find difficult to bring up.
• How to prevent strong emotions from derailing
communication.
• How to have positive communication.
MODULE 2:
WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP ANYWAY? SHOULDN’T IT BE OBVIOUS? YET
WHY IS THERE SO MUCH CONFLICT?
This
section challenges you to rethink what a relationship ought
to be and how to get there. You or your group may opt for
any of these. The content increases from 2A to 2E in terms
of quantity, intimacy and level of shared beliefs (i.e., 2E
is the most comprehensive and includes Catholic teachings
as well as the training from 2A, 2B, 2C and 2D).
Module 2A: Coworkers (1 Hour)
Module 2B: Parent/Child Relationships (1 Hour)
Module 2C: Couples – Without Faith-Based Criteria (1 Hour)
Module 2D: Couples – Non-Denominational Christian Vision (2
Hours)
Module 2E: Couples – Catholic Vision (2 Hours)
You will be challenged to have a shared vision of your
relationship, including common goals and what it needs to
thrive.
This class
addresses these complaints:
•
They hate me for no reason.
• We’re just too different, not compatible.
• I wish I knew what they were thinking.
• Tension - We’re side by side but we act like complete
strangers.
• I don’t feel appreciated.
• They never have time for me.
• They never tell me what’s going on.
• They don’t love me any more.
• I don’t even know why we’re married.
• There is no intimacy.
• I can’t trust them. / They don’t trust me.
• How many times do I have to apologize? Will they ever
forgive?
• We’re not even friends.
• We’ll never change.
Skills taught:
• How
to kindle (rekindle) a friendship.
• How to build (rebuild) trust.
• How to understand the other person better than ever
before.
• Effective apologies that create fresh starts.
• How to be effective in giving constructive feedback.
• How to change in the present and even the past.
Change is possible! But only when you have a much greater
clarity about what is really going on, what mistakes are
being made, what the goal is, and how to connect more
openly and thoughtfully. You can also be released from the
errors and strong emotions of the past.
MODULE 3:
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Once
the above two modules are mastered, the skills can be
applied to peacefully and fruitfully resolve any area of
conflict.
Modules 3A–3F (1 Hour) – This class is customizable and can
address from 1-3 of these in an hour.
Typical areas
of conflict include:
•
Teens – studies, friends, use of time, talent development,
plans, work, chores
• Finances, work, careers, travel
• Number and education of children, activities,
involvement, peers
• Household chores, home-owning, repairs, cars
• Sex and intimacy
• Religion
• Extended family
• Commitments, social obligations, friends
• Free time, recreation, vacations
• Medical/health issues
• Geography, plans to move elsewhere
• Negative influences, detractors
Skills
taught:
• Timing and introduction of important conversations
• How to negotiate, plan, solve problems together
• De-escalating conflict
• Avoiding unintended offenses and damage
• Getting beyond mere compromise and win/lose mentalities
MODULE 4:
HUMAN FLOURISHING
It’s
not enough to communicate well, get along and solve
problems. Most of us want to thrive in our life and
relationships. This requires identifying goals to strive
for and eliminating the mistakes and tendencies that hold
you back.
Module 4A: Achieving Freedom Despite Your Circumstances (1
Hour)
Module
4B: Friendship, Love, Trust, Safety and Commitment (1 Hour)
Module 4C: Harnessing Emotions
(from passive destructive reactions to helpful engagers of
the whole self) (1 Hour)
Module 4D: Habits of Personal Excellence 1 (1 Hour)
Module 4E: Habits of Personal Excellence 2 (1 Hour)
Module 4F: Developing a Contemplative Spirit (1 Hour)
Register Now or Inquire!
fernando@relationalharmony.org
443-370-2606